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A Conversation with Myself on How to Carry a Conversation with Another.

A Conversation with Myself on How to Carry a Conversation with Another.

ME:

How do I talk good?

METOO:

The best way to talk good, is to not talk at all.

ME:

Oh k. Um, what?

METOO:

The best way to talk good is to listen better.

ME:

Oh k. Wait, Im still not sure I quite understand. So, you are saying that listening is the same as talking?

METOO:

Yes. By listening intuitively, you gain credibility, because the speaker speaks of themselves, and who knows about the speaker more, than the speaker? Thats right, No one.

ME:

Wow, thats meta.

METOO:

See, when we look back at past conversations, we dont always remember what was said, but instead remember how we felt when we said it. So, when someone talks about themselves, they’re talking of topics relevant to what interests them, so when they look back they’ll feel positive about the interaction.

ME:

That sounds so narcissistic.

METOO:

And it kind of is, but we all have to like who we are. Its kind of essential and apart of life; finding oneself, accepting oneself.

ME:

Namaste. Well, I guess then the question that arises is,how do I listen better?

METOO:

The best way to listen better, is by asking better questions.

ME:

How do I ask “better” questions if I know nothing about the other person?

METOO:

I’m sure you know something about the other person. We are always making observations of people we come across. Its embedded in us as a part of our fight or flight response. We unconsciously judge whether the person is safe or dangerous, but danger doesnt necessarily have to be physical. In today’s world it is more often than not psychological; like the fear of awkward silence.

ME:

METOO:

Anyway,we begin by making observations of those we want to approach, analyze their qualities, and find something about them that truly catches our interest. Qualities such as the clothing they are wearing, a common objective, or any relatable experience that comes to mind. Be genuine, and be humble. Heres an example of a conversation between two people:

MYBOB:

Nice shoes, whered you get them?

MYJOB:

The mall.

MYBOB:

Oh yea? The one here on Broadway?

MYJOB:

No, but I like that one. The one on Sherman Oaks.

MYBOB:

Ive heard good things about that place, and i’ve been meaning to go. Is it nice?

METOO:

And so on

The key is to be genuine with your intrigue, and of course be humble in the process.

ME:

Okay, let me see if I understand what youre saying. In order to prevent a conversation from going stagnant, you recommend listening, and the best way to listen is to ask questions with sincere intrigue. The best way to find interest is by making observations of the immediate moment. Observations, like what the person is wearing, a common objective, or anything that I might want to know.

METOO:

Yes! Now, you’re getting it. Everyone lives their own path. Every persons journey is unique, and we can grow together interdependently. Not one person will ever walk in your shoes, because as soon as you give them to another, they are no longer your shoes, but become their shoes. It’s a continuous effort to ensure we set aside our differences, and work together to understand what makes us different. The more we learn about each other, the more we realize we are the same, and the more accepting we become of our differences.

ME:

Thank You. And, on an unrelated note, I must say that I think you’re a handsome, intelligent, caring, and important person in society.

METOO:

That’s so nice of you to say, but I’m nobody; really.

ME:

No, really. You are extremely good looking.

METOO:

I know.

ME:

Humble… Anyway, thank you and I love you.

METOO:

You are most welcome, and I love you too.

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